Lisa Fife Coaching

Episode 18 - Decision Fatigue

DO YOU HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING DECISIONS??
 
So many of us do!
 
Did you know it only takes 1 second to make a decision and usually that doesn’t require a lot of brain power or energy. 
 
You know what takes a lot of brain power and energy? 
SITTING IN
INDECISION
MISERABLE MAYBE
SITTING IN WHAT IF
OR SITTING IN FEAR
 
In this episode you:
Will learn about the biggest dream killer thoughts and how to avoid them by using different thought provoking phrases
 
That there are no wrong or perfect decisions
 
Learn how to plan ahead or making decision a head of time by using your prefrontal cortex
When you let go of miserable maybe and indecision, it opens and frees up your brain for curiosity, problem solving, and creative solutions.  Your outcome will be gained knowledge for your personal and professional development, realized dreams, and confidence in yourself!
 
You can download free coaching worksheets by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.
 

Episode 17 - Anxiety: Resist or Allow

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU START TO EXPERIENCE WORRY OR ANXIETY? 
 
Do you resist feeling this emotion?
 
You're not alone!  Many of us resist, react, or avoid uncomfortable feelings.
 
In this episode, I will describe a personal experience of me resisting feeling the emotion of anxiety.  
We’re not taught to feel our emotions. Feeling is an ability that most of us need to  learn because we’re taught by the media and social conditioning to escape emotions.
Learn in detail the steps on how to go from resisting to allowing the feeling of anxiety by processing it.
Allowing is a skill you have to learn and practice. It’s not the same as reacting to an emotion. It’s not the same as resisting. It’s not the same as pretending it’s not there.
You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: Thoughts and Feelings Tracker aka Thought Download, Now Feelings, and Processing Feelings by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 16 - Control, Lies, and Shame

Do you like to CONTROL everyone and everything around you? Or do you know someone who does?
Then this episode IS FOR YOU!
 
In this episode we will be discussing:
Why we try to control others due to 
False beliefs or lies we will be happier OR more loveable, likeable or maybe even envied
And wanting to avoid uncomfortable emotions like SHAME AND FEAR
 
Why is this behavior unhealthy and not serving us?
 
Many of us have expectations of others. AND often our expectations drive us to try to control others because we assume we will be happier or more loveable. 
 
As nice as that sounds, this can lead to unnecessary suffering because we are giving all our power away of HOW WE FEEL based on another person's behavior. 
 
Additionally, we also try to control out of avoiding feeling shame or fear.
 
Learn in this episode the important and powerful facts on how controlling others will not bring you happiness. 
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my emailing list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 15 - Morning Thoughts

ARE YOUR MORNING THOUGHTS NEGATIVE? 
 
Do you struggle with getting out of bed? 
 
You're not alone! 
 
In this episode, I will teach you about morning thoughts and how to go from destructive overwhelming thoughts and behaviors to more productive thoughts and results.
 
Our brains have about 50,000 thoughts a day, and 70-80% are negative when those thoughts are unmanaged and on autopilot.  I know this to be true because the moment I wake up my negative thoughts start firing off!  I always assumed the way that I felt in the morning had everything to do with my depression.  It was 100% to blame and not me or my thinking.  
 
Learn in detail the 4 steps to go from overwhelm and lack of motivation in the morning to a lighter more productive morning.
Step 1 - Create awareness
Step 2 - Start with the end in mind - what outcome do you want?
Step 3 - Anticipate morning obstacles and how to avoid them through planning
Step 4 - Get deliberate and intentional
 
Creating a new life is done by deciding WHAT WE WANT and then practicing that reality cognitively until it has created the exact emotion or feeling we are looking for TO ACHIEVE OUR DESIRED RESULTS.
 
Practice these 4 steps and you will notice your mornings will seem a little lighter and getting out of bed a little easier.  You can have depression AND learn to wake up with more positive morning thoughts and results.
 
You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: Thoughts and Feelings Tracker, The Model, Mental Rehearsal and New Thought Brainstorm by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 14 - Suicide Sucks

In this episode, I will be talking about mental illnesses and suicide prevention. 
 
Suicide Sucks.
 
It affects everyone of us.  We all know someone or have loved someone who died by suicide.  September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so I think it is super helpful to shine some light on mental health illnesses and suicide prevention this episode. 
 
Listen and learn about:
My personal experience of losing my ex-husband, the father of my two eldest sons, to suicide
My personal struggle with my own mental illness depression
What mental illnesses are and the stigma surrounding them
The facts and warning signs of suicide
Where to find support, and
What resources are available to you.
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.
 
 

Episode 13 - Other People's Opinions

We place value on OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS. 
We care about what others will think and even have fear of what others will think.  Our worry about what others think is exhausting and overwhelming.
 
WE CANNOT CONTROL HOW OTHERS FEEL ABOUT US! 
WE CANNOT CONTROL THEIR OPINIONS OF US.
 
In this episode we are going to talk about OPINIONS:
WHY DO WE CARE ABOUT OTHERS OPINIONS? 
WHAT OPINION MATTERS MOST?
HOW WILL YOUR LIFE CHANGE WHEN YOU STOP WORRYING ABOUT OTHER’S OPINIONS?
Listen and learn how we have an inherent need to fit in and not go outside the pack, so we place value on opinions and expectations of our social, cultural, or familial circles.  We avoid feeling the emotion of pain and fear of not being accepted in an effort to fit in.  Because of this, we lose our sense of authenticity and belonging.  
Trying to fit in is a betrayal to yourself and the opposite of belonging!
We can control other’s perceptions and opinions of us.  
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 12 - Feelings and What To Do With Them

Feelings are why we do everything! In today’s episode we are going to talk about FEELINGS! 
What they are
What we DO with them and why
And what we really should do with them, which is allow and process them
 
Learn how feelings are emotions or vibrations we experience in our bodies and are directly related to the thoughts we’re thinking about a circumstance and NOT the circumstance itself.
 
Feelings start in our brain and move down into our body! 
 
And feelings are voluntary and come from the thoughts we have about a circumstance and not the circumstance itself
Learn how we have 4 options on how to behave when we have an uncomfortable feeling or emotion.  We can RESIST, REACT, AVOID, OR ALLOW the emotion.  Only one of these options will serve us and give us the confidence to try anything because we have practiced sitting with the feeling.
 
When we are willing to feel any emotion, we will also be willing to try ANY GOAL or FACE ANY UNCERTAINTY!
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 11 - Fear of Failure

In this episode I will be talking about fear, specifically THE FEAR of FAILURE.
 
I will:
DESCRIBE what fear is and HOW it is created
Go over what our PRIMITIVE BRAIN is trying to do when we FEEL FEAR
WHY we really have fear or specifically what we make FEAR OF FAILURE MEAN
TEACH how we can OVERCOME THE FEAR OF FAILURE and
Go over an activity to identify our fears and how to overcome the fear of failure
Listen how fear is created by our thoughts and also comes from the primitive part of our brain that wants to protect us.  Most of our fears come from what we think others will think of us if we fail and what we make it mean IF we do fail.  We can overcome fear by recognizing it, understanding why our brain does it, describing the feeling and being ok with discomfort, and knowing failure is part of the deal when working towards success, our goals, dreams and ambitions. 
The feeling of fear or the fear of failure does not mean something has gone wrong or something is wrong with us.
 
We need to fail forward and double, even triple, our rate of failure to have success.  
 
We are meant for great things and our possibilities are endless!
 
Don’t let others opinions, fear, and fear of failure be a barrier to our own success ladies!! You’ve got this!
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Episode 10 - Personal Insecurities

In this episode we will be talking about INSECURITIES, more specifically my personal insecurities AND HOW MY BRAIN WAS FINDING EVIDENCE TO PROVE MY THOUGHT that I did not belong as a speaker at an upcoming conference.  
Learn in this episode how I took a real-life example and used my coaching tools to work through my negative thoughts. 
The two important coaching tools discussed in this episode are:
Awareness by using a Thought Download and 
The Power of Positive Questions
Listen how I was able to discover that I was feeling insecure because I thought I did NOT BELONG due to two really deep seeded beliefs.  Beliefs I didn't realize I was holding onto from my childhood.
Often, we will find ourselves thinking negative thoughts about ourselves due to deep seated BELIEFS we have adopted along the course of our lives.  Learn how holding onto these beliefs have unintended consequences in our behavior and undesired results, like in my case, my productivity tanked and my depression ramped up.
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.
 
Lastly, here is the link to the talk I gave at the DisruptHR conference, if you want to listen! 
https://vimeo.com/957289474?share=copy
 

Episode 9 - Manuals

In this episode we will be talking about EXPECTATIONS WE HAVE OF OTHERS or WHAT WE CALL in the coaching world as a MANUAL.
We will be discussing:
What manuals are
Examples of manuals and
How do we let go of our manuals for others
Many of us have expectations of others, like our spouse, a co-worker, a neighbor, boss, parents, siblings or children. AND we believe that if they meet our expectations and follow our manual, we will be happier and have a better connection or relationship with that person. 
 
Learn in this episode important and powerful facts on how controlling others will not bring you happiness. 
 
Listen and learn how to take your power back for your emotional wellbeing.
 
For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.
 
If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.